Five Ways to Develop Self-Discipline
Studies show that self-discipline is a key factor in achieving goals and succeeding. It's easy to acknowledge achievements, but what's often overlooked is the self-discipline it takes to succeed. For instance, when you go to your primary care physician, do you recognize the discipline it took for them to become a doctor and to provide medical care to their community? Or that painting that's inspiring you at the museum, how long did it take for the artist to paint it? Or maybe you know someone who lost weight, and it took a lot of commitment on their part. How about yourself? What do you want to achieve? In this article, you’ll learn about self-discipline and how to develop it for your success.
***Last year, I went through a slump and got to a point where I was unmotivated to do anything. I gained weight, I wasn't eating healthy, I was drinking a lot, and I was not pouring into my hobbies. Like most bad habits, this was not immediate, I declined over time. This happened by continuing to give myself excuses and constantly procrastinating, until I eventually gave up on myself. But I grew tired, tired of disappointing myself, and ready to prove to myself that I can show up for me.
1.“I’m A Priority”: Stop Disappointing Yourself
You show up for things in life that are important. You go to work because it’s essential for your career. You spend time with your partner or friends, because it's necessary to maintain those relationships. So why aren't you showing up for yourself? Why can't you keep a workout routine, eat healthier, and pour into your hobbies? The answer is simple. You haven't made yourself a priority yet. Stop tending to your needs in your spare time, with little effort. Instead, start thinking of yourself as a relationship, a relationship you have to nurture and build. Having a healthy relationship with yourself allows you to make time for yourself and take “You” seriously. When you create an internal relationship, wanting to impress yourself becomes natural. For example, in the past, you let procrastination win, but now you push yourself. “I will go for a 15-minute run”. “I will stop smoking”. “I will cook myself dinner tonight”. “I will clean out my closet”.
2. No Pain, No Gain: Embracing Discomfort
The unknown tends to make people uncomfortable, and for some, it deters them from trying new things. Sometimes the very thing that we are avoiding or makes us uncomfortable is what helps us grow in the long run. This manifests in many ways: avoiding the gym because you don't want to look stupid, not starting that painting because you are unsure if it will come out nice, not pivoting into a new career because you are afraid of starting over. Discomfort and uncertainty come with the territory of self-growth and evolution. Growth doesn't come from not trying or from constantly putting things off, it comes from taking action. So if doubt and anxiety are the mental blocks stopping you from being a disciplined version of yourself, embrace that you have doubts, that you are a bit anxious, but you will still try and will still get things done.
3. Get Your Life Together: Develop A Routine
With life and responsibilities, staying disciplined can sometimes be a challenge. This is why time management and an effective routine are essential to many successful people. With only a limited amount of time allotted for yourself a day, you have to learn how to optimize your use of it. If working out, reading a book, or cooking a meal is embedded into your schedule, it's routine for you, and you will get it done. Remember, a routine is your personal program that you create to suit “You” best. Ensure you explore practical ways to build morning and evening routines.
4. Find an Accountability Partner
Social support is a significant motivator of goal achievement. If you have someone in your corner supporting you and keeping you accountable, you are much more likely to get things done. For instance, joining a yoga class, where you build a bond with your teacher and other attendees, will keep you going, as there is now a community benefit to your attendance. Starting a book club with a friend is a great way to get you reading again. Getting a language tutor lets you not only learn from a native speaker but also follow a guided curriculum. No matter what your goals are, there are people out there to assist you and guide you. For more extensive guidance, consider working with a wellness coach.
5. Reward Your Efforts
Discipline is an art that often requires you to reject instant gratification. For example, instead of relaxing on the couch, you decided to clean up first. Over time, you learn to delay gratification and get used to putting in the work first. Still, you need to reward your efforts and consistency. Rewarding yourself is an integral part of self-discipline, as it helps prevent burnout and keep you motivated. This reward is something unique to you, ranging from small to big. Maybe you have a cheat day after eating healthy meals all week, so you treat yourself to your favorite fast food meal. Or you’ve been working hard and showing up your best at work, so you schedule an extended weekend and go on a road trip. Continue to acknowledge your efforts and honor your goal achievements.
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